I AM KATIE BASKERVILLE
A quick 4 steps to the ultimate Sunday indulgence
My Sunday morning bathing ritual is one I look forward to every day of the week. It’s such a treat because I get to really pamper myself.
As I’ve previously touched on in my first lockdown post; Finding the Balance in Chaos, I’m not particularly good at sitting still. However, one thing I am very good at is keeping a routine and creating rituals to help me cope and thrive.
During lockdown I’ve definitely become a lot kinder to myself. I’m sleeping a little longer, I’m writing when the mood takes me and I have take great pride in almost completing Netflix.
In any case, I realised that for my days to feel like days and my weekends to feel like weekends I needed to pull something a little extra out of the bag so that I have something to look forward to.
For me, identifying my days and weekends is super important so that I don’t end up in a time-merge where everything looks and feels the same. Variety is the spice of life and I need that good old break up of time and space so that I don’t over do it on the work and don’t over do it on the treats. Because as my 90’s heroes The Spice Girls sang;
“Too much of something is bad enough.
But something’s coming over me to make me wonder
Too much of nothing is just as tough.
I need to know the way to feel to keep me satisfied”.
1. Bathing is more than just ‘keeping clean’
Don’t you just hate it when somebody chimes in with the old ‘I hate baths, you’re just lying in your own filth’. Firstly how grubby did you get? If you do feel uncomfortable relaxing in the tub, have a quick body shower first to dust off the cobwebs. It will make the experience a whole lot more enjoyable if you feel like you’re clean from the get go.
Bathing is much more than an opportunity to wash your body, in my books bathing is time to myself. I’m coming to learn how important that is. That half an hour to an hour where I get to decide how I would like to feel, how I would like to be entertained and most importantly how I would like to relax.
If you’re like me and always on the go, giving yourself time to be alone, but not lonely, is one of the kindest things you can do. Why? Because it gives you three things that you don’t usually get to practice. Silence which gives you room to listen. Stillness which gives you room to feel and finally; spaciousness, just giving you room. These are three principles are related to meditation practices and can be used to ground out those busy thoughts, feelings and impulses.
2. Choose scents and setting
The old factory sense is one of the most powerful sensors in the human body. Stimulating it in the right way can evoke feelings of nostalgia, help promote healing and help to reduce the effects of depression and anxiety.
Before you jump in or overload your bathroom with lavender scented bubbles, do a little research into how to pimp your bathing experience.
Equally, do you want candles or do you want daylight? Do you want music or do you want a movie? Fancy reading with a bottle of wine by your side? You go for it. There is no right or wrong, but deciding how you would like to feel after your bath can dictate how you set up the room.
Your bathing ritual needs to suit you, reflecting your wants and your desires.
3. Touch Yourself
I mean this in both the literal sense and in the sexual sense, but only do what is comfortable to you. Touching your skin and feeling your body is powerful tool if you need to reconnect with yourself.
We often see our bodies and our minds as separate entities and when we are confronted with the physical self we are generally trained to dislike it. Combat this with kindness. Caress yourself, guide the water over you and give yourself permission to be in your body.
That being said, the bath is the one of my favourite places to masturbate. The water is warm, everything is a little weightless and sensitive and I am generally feeling the space I’m in. For a good orgasm your head needs to be in it, so make sure that you’ve considered step two wisely.
Bring in a waterproof toy or two, choose a playlist or read something a little racey to get things going. Then take some time to relax and let the water lap about your body, you gorgeous sexy thing.
I have good days and bad days when it comes to my body, like we all do. But, if you’re feeling good and able, take some time to consciously wash your body. Watch your hands take care as they guide the suds up and down your sweet self. Be tender, be kind. We have so little time to grace ourselves with gifts that truly lift us up.
If you’re ever experiencing a bad day, I feel you, I really do. I wrote about my personal experiences and how to pull myself out of it here if you need a little help.
4. Post Bath
Preparation is key – how would you like to spend the rest of your Sunday? Reading? Lounging? A light bit of work? Get your clean clothes ready so that once you’re ready to leave the bathroom you have little to distract or deter you from your relaxed state of mind. Grab your best lounge wear, clean underwear and some cosy socks and ease yourself in the rest of the day in ultimate bliss.
This brings us to the end of the post; The Sunday Morning Bathing Ritual.
What are your favourite bathing rituals? Leave me some top tips in the comments section.
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I am looking at you, fellow perfectionists. It’s time to call out the behaviours holding you back and see how you can put a stop to your perfectionist standing in your way.
Copyright. Katie Baskerville 2020.